Signs That Somebody Hates You

By molly atherton 7 months ago
While we often strive for harmonious connections, the truth remains that not every interaction is enveloped in warmth or genuine camaraderie. Recognizing when someone harbors negative feelings towards you can be a challenging yet essential aspect of navigating the complex world of human emotions.

They ignore you when you're talking to them

How rude! If someone straight up ignores you when you're saying something to them, not only is out of order, but it's a sure sign they don't like you enough to want to listen.Image Source / Make a meme.orgIgnorance can come in a few different ways - they could either point blank pretend you're not there, or may listen for a short while and then become bored with you.Original content sourced from

You don't agree on anything - seriously, nothing whatsoever

There's nothing wrong with having a different opinion with someone and a healthy debate - it doesn't mean you're sworn enemies. But when you seriously don't agree on a single thing, it's not good.Image Source / RedditEven down to stupid things like which sandwich to have for lunch, it's a sign that you're just not two people who get along - or at the very least they might not like your way of thinking!

They don't want to be seen with you in public

If someone hates you, there's no way they'll want people to see you together in public - how embarrassing! People might think that you're both friends.Image Source / RedditAnd that would be bad for their rep. If they have to be out with you in public and you see someone you know, chances are they're leaping into the nearest bush.

Or, they just don't go out with you in public whatsoever

But if the hate is strong enough, they aren't even going to make the effort to be out with you in public to begin with - there's no way they're going to waste time on that.Image Source / RedditSo any requests of doing things in public together will be very, very quickly turned down to save them the trouble of having to decline later on.

They will always, always take the longer route so they don't have to talk to you

If they see you coming down the street, you bet your bottom dollar they're going to turn around, walk a different way and add half an hour onto their travel time.Image Source / VultureThis is just for the luxury of not having to deal with you right now. If you're taking the elevator at work, they're taking the stairs. Anything to get that time away from you.

It's like you're a ghost they can't see or hear

Maybe you've even questioned once or twice whether you are a ghost - you could wave in front of their face and it would be like you're invisible!Image Source / BuzzFeedThey pretend they can't see or hear you, or that you're not even in the same room. They never even acknowledge your presence, no matter how obvious.

They leave you out of important events on purpose - you don't even know they're happening half the time

Whether this important business meet-ups or social gatherings, you don't even know because you're never invited. This person will always leave you off the list.Image Source / RedditYou may find out about it a week later when everyone's talking about what a great time they had at so-and-so's party, and you're the only one who wasn't invited.

Or, they make a song and dance about how they 'forgot' to invite you and they're super sorry

If they hate you but they're a coward, they may not do the straight up 'no I didn't invite you, and what?'. They may instead pretend that they forgot to invite youImage Source / Make a meme.orgOh, and they're really upset at their 'mistake' and promise to make it up to you by inviting you to the next big bash. Which of course, they don't invite you to.

They'll do anything to ruin your reputation

This doesn't just mean behind your back, either. They may have no issues letting you know that they're out to sabotage you, or they may try and be subtle about it.Image Source / RedditIf it's a colleague, they might do anything they can to make you look bad in front of your boss, or to jeopardise your hard work.

They will always belittle you, no matter what

They're never, ever going to waste an opportunity to make you feel about 2 inches tall. They go out of there way to say or do things which belittles you.Image Source / RedditThey make you feel like an idiot, like you've done something wrong, or that you're not worth their time. They may even find new and creative ways to make you feel small.

And they belittle you and criticize you in front of others

To make things worse, they might not have this behaviour as just between you and them. They might want to belittle you in front of others.Image Source / New York MagazineThis could be both strangers or people you know. Criticizing you every chance they get in front of others is even worse. It's just mean!

They sabotage your plans

They might overhear that you're planning a birthday party, or that you're going to book tickets for a show. If they really hate you, they'll go out of their way to sabotage that.Image Source / The Washington PostMaybe they throw a party on the same day as your birthday and invite everyone you know, before you manage to send your invitations out.

They take credit for what you've done

If you ever achieve anything great from your own hard work, whether it's working for a promotion in your job or just working out a better way to curl your hair.Image Source / Know Your MemeThey're always going to take credit for it. They'll tell all your friends they told you to curl your hair that way. They'll tell colleagues or maybe even your boss that they helped you with your work.

You're the only one left out of the group chat

If you have a bunch of friends or colleagues and the person who hates you decided to make a group chat - you were the only one left out of it.Image Source / Know Your MemeThey added everyone but you to it. This might be the key chat everyone uses to discuss social plans and updates, too - which once again just means you're left out of it.

They constantly interrupt you

You can't get a word in edgewise, no matter what you do. The minute you open your mouth it's like a beacon for them to start talking over you.Image Source / ImgflipEven if they have nothing interesting to say, it's much better for them to start yapping than to have to listen to whatever you were going to say, clearly.

They refuse to offer you help

No matter what the situation, whether you're locked out and they live nearby, whether you need a life home from work or you're 10 cents short for your coffee, they're never going to help out.Image Source / SoundCloudThis is the one person you can always count on - to never be there for you. So don't even waste your time in thinking they may be there for you!

And they will never support you if you're having a rough time

If you message them saying that you're having a rough time at the moment and could do with someone to talk to, they'll leave you on 'Read'.Image Source / Teen VogueIf you tell them in person about something you've been dealing with, they're probably already halfway out the door, or only pretending to listen. 'Support' is definitely not their middle name.

Everything that comes out of their mouth is sarcastic

Every now and again, sarcasm can be fun if meant in a light-hearted way - but here we're talking about those constant, exhausting sarcastic remarks in response to everything.Image Source / Cornelius Today'Oh it's hot today' - 'Noooooooo you don't saaaaay, because I thought it was freeeeezing'. You know. You get the idea. It's the lowest form of wit - and it's insulting.

They're super nice to you in front of others - and then cold to you in private

This one cuts the most, because if you ever said anything about their behavior, other people would just say 'What are you talking about? They're always so nice to you!'.Image Source / PinterestThey might act lovely and friendly to you in public, and then distant and cold to you in private. They might instantly change the minute other people leave the room.

They always want to make you as jealous as possible

They live for the satisfaction of knowing you're jealous of them - because it gives them an ego boost. They might want to show off anything and everything.Image Source / RedditWhether it's a flashy new car, a job promotion or a new outfit - all of which they know you'd die for. They just want to watch you squirm.

You only ever have negative conversations

You can't ever have a nice conversation. You don't talk about anything good, it's always focused on the negatives, the disagreements and may even always turn into full-scale arguments.Image Source / Get LighthouseIf you're talking to this person, there's a 100% chance it's going to turn into something negative. They just don't like you one single bit.

Talking to them is like squeezing blood from a stone

You can never get a straight answer out of them, no matter what. Their messages might be one word replies when you've written an essay.Image Source / Good GentlemanEven if you repeat yourself, they still can't seem to think up a relevant answer to what you're actually talking about. They don't take any time to reply to you.

You've noticed they act differently to absolutely anybody who isn't you

Did you walk into the work office one day only to hear them telling a story in a way they've never, ever spoken to you before?Image Source / RedditHave you heard them wishing everyone a good morning or saying bye with a big smile when you know full well they've never done that with you? Yeah.

People who know them show obvious hatred towards you

This can be a sign because there must have been something said or done to make the people think negatively of you. You might never have even met these people before!Image Source / CinemaBlendYou might find them scowling at you, or doing a 'Oh it's you' kind of expression. This can suggest the person in question has been talking badly about you behind your back.

You've actually seen them ignore your phone call

You spotted them out in public, or called them from the other room at work where you can see them through the glass ignoring you blatantly.Image Source / RedditYou watch them look at their phone screen, look slightly disgusted and then put their phone back down without answering. They obviously don't want to answer that call.

They never share anything with you - whether physical or conversation wise

They might show everyone else you know a photo of their new puppy - do they show you? Nah. They open up a bag of sweets and offer one round to everyone.Image Source / RedditDo they offer them to you? Nah. It all sounds petty, and that's because it is. They just don't want to share anything with you.

They've cropped you out of photos

You may have seen them upload a new batch of photos to their social media, whether of the two of you together or a big group one, only to find you've been cropped out of the picture.Image Source / Pedestrian.TVThey might have used a great photo of you together as their new profile picture, making sure that not even a stand of your hair can be seen in it.

They never laugh at your jokes

Not because your jokes aren't funny (believe in yourself, you are hilarious) but because it's simply you who's telling them and they can't allow themself to laugh at you.Image Source / RedditChances are if someone else said the exact same joke to them, they would laugh their head off. But they never crack a smile at any of your funny comments.

They're easily offended by anything you do or say

It feels like you can't do or say anything without them getting the hump. Even if you've said something that isn't, in any way whatsoever, offensive.Image Source / RedditThey will do everything in their power to find something offensive about it, and tell you so. You feel like you're treading on eggshells with them.

They don't let you use their stuff

If it's a colleague, you might make a simple request, like wandering over to their desk to ask for a stapler - and they might react like you've just asked the most inappropriate thing in the world.Image Source / Second Life MarketplaceThey'll cradle their staple to their bosom and say, under no circumstance, can you even breath near it. Absolutely not. No way. How dare you.

They show negative facial expressions

Not everyone can hide their facial expressions well. If someone is disgusted by you or hates your presence, you might notice that they show it quite clearly.Image Source/ wayhomestudion FreepikThis may be through their expressions of discontent and disgust through frowning or scowling when you're talking. Be sure to keep a watch of their facial movements.

They take advantage of your kindness

Although they hate you, your enemies will be very much aware that you are a kind person, even if they don't want to admit it.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikSometimes, they will even take advantage of your kindness and get you to do things for them. Be aware the next time someone is using you for your generosity.

They condemn everything you do

People who hate you, will hate to like you. This means that whenever you share something (literally anything) you've done, they will condemn it immediately.Image Source/ FreepikBought a new car? Should've bought a different one. New tattoo? They hate it. Be wary though that not everything is a condemnation, it could be advice from a truthful friend.

They barely make contact with you

They will have already given up on a friendship you may have once had, so this will mean they won't be bothered about keeping up contact with you.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikWhat you are getting up to in life is none of their concern and you will be expendable to them. Don't settle for this behaviour.

They manipulate you

People who have the ability to hate others are quite often narcissists. Narcissists will manipulate you to extreme extents to get you to do things you don't want to do.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikThere's a number of ways that they could do this, although usually it is their priceless "information" that they utilise in order to manipulate people.

They avoid eye contact

When you're having conversations with them, their eyes will drift and they'll be occupied by something else. You won't find them staring in your eyes for a good conversation.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikIf someone hates you, they barely want to be in the same room as you, never mind look at you. They can't bring themselves to look at you properly.

They are keen to blackmail you

This might be one of the ways they try to manipulate you. You will find that your enemies will use confidential information you told them in order to blackmail you.Image Source/ macrovector FreepikThis isn't something that a friend does, so don't take lightly to someone trying to blackmail you. It's a sign of an enemy and not a friend.

They have a bad attitude around you

Those people who hate others can often feel very irritated by their presence. This means that their mood will lower, which will affect their attitude.

Image Source/ syaifahbrit FreepikIt may be that they snap at you, or are very inattentive to what you're saying, or they constantly talk in a sharp and hurtful tone.

They show a lack of appreciation

Someone that hates you will not appreciate you in their life. Whether it be something nice that you do for them, or being there for them in their time of need.Image Source/ jcomp FreepikYou will notice that they show signs of insincerity after you're acts of kindness, and dismiss your loyalty as though it is meaningless to them.

You're an option to them

If they're trying to get rid of you as a friend, it means that you're not the top of their priority list, by any means. You may be at the bottom!Image Source/ vectorjuice FreepikHating you means that they will do anything not to choose you. And sometimes will do so as a last resort. You're not second best; so make sure you know your worth.

They spread gossip about you

It's not nice to spread gossip about someone, especially made-up deceitful lies, and nobody would do this to a friend or somebody that they valued or liked.Image Source/ balassoiu FreepikIf you find out that someone is doing this behind your back, they definitely don't like you very much. Don't be fooled by their fake kindness.

Their body language is demeaning

Demeaning body language can come in all sorts of forms. They might be stand-offish or exhibit signs of defence by crossing their arms or throwing you dirty looks.Image Source/ gstudiomagen1 FreepikIf they have had a shift in distancing themselves from you this might also be a sign. Perhaps they don't want to be close to you anymore.

They are confrontational

They won't be afraid to stand up to you. In all fairness, friends can be confrontational and defy you on many topics. But this is in a more hostile way.Image Source/ redgreystock FreepikBut you should be aware of what it means for someone to be confrontational for no reason, it's clear that they don't like you and that's why they do it.

They exploit you

Whether it be for financial, emotional or personal gain, if someone tries to exploit you, consider cutting them off. They may even exploit you to other people.Image Source/ vectorjuice FreepikAnd they may put you in precarious situations that would potentially harm you, either physically or otherwise. Keep yourself at a distance to protect yourself.

They may physically abuse you

It might sound obvious, but sometimes we can overlook these things and we brush them off as small outbursts - but never excuse it. It's never okay.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikBut don't be fooled, nobody should be physically hurt by someone else. If they do, it's obvious that they don't love you, and potentially hate you.

They create unprompted drama

Envy or jealousy can contribute to the creation of drama. Drama can arise when necessary, sometimes as a result of a tarnished relationship or a difficult event.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikBut if those you consider enemies start drama for no reason, it looks like they are trying to find multiple reasons too cut off your friendship.

They can be extremely ungrateful

Sometimes, friends can be ungrateful, but it doesn't mean they they hate you. Some people are just like that. Or they may be caught up with their own challenges, leading to lapses in gratitude.Image Source/ macrovector FreepikBut if you notice that they suddenly become ungrateful, it could be a sign of distaste towards you. Make sure to be keen to pick up on these signs.

They are very different than you

This sign is more ominous. People's differences shouldn't mean friction in any sense. How different are you really? Were your upbringings vastly different from one another?Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikHowever, if you're experiencing a number of the signs in this list, you should ask yourself questions about how your initial relationship arose in the first place.

They glare at you

While some that hate you will avoid eye contact all together, others won't hide their hatred as well. You might find them glaring at you for no reason at all.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikThey may quickly divert their gaze, or continue to glare, which gives you all the more reason to recognise their hatred. The eyes don't lie, after all!

They make excuses not to see you

Meeting up with people regularly is the key to maintaining a healthy and beneficial relationship - you do need to see one another now and then.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikHowever, if someone decides that they don't want to see you anymore, they will avoid seeing you at any cost. This means making up all sorts of excuses.

They disagree with your opinion often

Your opinions aren't opinions in the eyes of your haters. Even if they agree with your opinion, they will go out of their way to find flaws in your views.Image Source/ upklyak FreepikThey will begin or disagreements and they will express them beyond a doubt. While it may even damage their reputation, they don't seem to care.

They show a lack of effort

This could be a lack of effort to meet up, make contact or even have a conversation. It always seems to be you reaching out and it's never reciprocated.Image Source/ macrovector FreepikThey will sit through a conversation with you and act disinterest, responding with short, conversation fillers and will do anything to make sure the conversation ends promptly.

Everything has to be their way

Haters won't want to do anything your way and they will go to extreme lengths to make sure that they get what they want, no matter what.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikIt's part of their campaign to override you and disrespect you, because of their distaste towards you. Be vigilant when it comes to this type of behaviour.

They disrespect you

You wouldn't disrespect a friend, would you? If someone is disrespecting you over and over again it's a sign that they may dislike or even hate you.Image Source/ upklyak FreepikBe sure to consider their worth in your life if you are constantly brought down by their demeaning behaviour. Maybe you'd be happier with some distance?

They get easily jealous

It's not hard to make a hater jealous. In fact, anything you do will test their jealousy, and there's nothing worse than a jealous hater.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikThey will make sure that you know how much they hate you by picking up on any news items you've bought and tear them down.

You're always to blame

It's easy for haters to point the blame at somebody else and that somebody is usually you. Even if you had nothing to do with the incident.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikThey will still ensure that you're in the firing line for it. Make sure not to stand for it and call them out on their appalling behaviour.

They refuse to work on your troubled relationship

Haters are beyond giving energy to your troubled relationship. They don't want to fix what is wrong and are happy to go along and wait for the relationship to naturally dwindle.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikIf you have someone like this in your life, it' a potential sign of their hatred towards you. In some cases, people may harbor negative feelings, such as jealousy or spite.

They refuse to show affection

While you may think this is restrictive to an intimate relationship, it's not necessarily true. A breakdown in communication can lead to misunderstandings and emotional distanceImage Source/ pch.vector FreepikIf someone who used to be affectionate has suddenly gone cold and distant, it could be a sign that they have started to mistrust and dislike you, be aware of the signs.

They don't care about your presence

Haters will not like you being present at their get togethers and reunions, so they will be completely unbothered by your presence and act like you're not there.Image Source/ pch.vector FreepikThey might not greet you when you enter, or say their farewells when you leave. Instead, they will continue as they were, business as usual.

Your conversations turn sour

Have you noticed that you're conversations end in arguments or awkward silences? It may be that they're disinterred in talking to you, which sours your relationship.Image Source/ vectorjuice FreepikThey are doing anything and everything they can to try and make sure you're relationship is beyond repair. They make everything turn extremely sour between you.

You're Always The One Reaching Out - All The Time

If we're dealing with a friend who you now think might hate you, it could be that you used to talk all day, every day, but now it's only ever you reaching out.Image Source / TED IdeasYou may find that you're talking to a brick wall or squeezing blood from a stone now when you try and make contact. It's you trying to make an attempt at conversation.

They're Not Excited To See You

Which means they probably don't care about seeing you, they haven't looked forward to seeing you and of course, they definitely did not miss you.Image Source / HealthShotsYou may think maybe if you meet in person it'd be different than over message, because sometimes tone can be misunderstood, but nope - in person they're still just as unenthusiastic.

They Don't Open Up To You Or Tell You Anything Personal

If someone doesn't care about you, they're also not going to care about sharing anything personal with you. It shows that the relationship might be superficial or lack depth.Image Source / ParlaThey don't want you to know anything more about them, and they're definitely not interested about knowing anything about you on a deeper level, so why bother?

They Can Never, Ever Take A Joke

If someone doesn't like you, then they're going to have very little patience to take a joke. They might not find anything you say funny.Image Source / GQAnd get extremely offended every time you try and have a laugh at them. They may go the whole way and get angry and offended every time you joke about something.

Every Time You Ask A Question, They're Offended

Why are you asking me that? What do you want to know? What's it got to do with you? Any question you ask may get this type of defensive response from them.Image Source / Psychology TodayThey're never willing to answer a question - they're just immediately suspicious why you asked in the first place and they get all defensive about it!

You're Made To Feel Clingy Or Overly-Demanding

If you try to get to know this person or bond, you may be then made to feel like any attempts at conversation are too personal or demanding.
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They might treat you as though your attempts at getting closely are just too clingy and overwhelming, when actually it's them just not wanting to talk.

They Condescend You

Lack of respect and dislike for a person can be shown through them patronising or condescending you which can make you feel very belittled and small.Image Source / Workplaces That WorkThey might belittle you at every opportunity in a jokey, vindictive way with a laugh, or they may even be deadly serious when they speak to you as though you have only half a brain cell.

They Suddenly Want Their Things Back

If this is someone you know and they're suddenly demanding things back that you've borrowed, it's a sign they're ready to sever ties with you.Image Source / LoveBondingsOr suddenly feel annoyed about you having anything that belongs to them and it drives them to contact you about getting their things back from you.

They Flirt With The Person They Know You Like

This one's very cruel, if a person you know hates you enough to actively seek out the person they know you like and make a point of flirting with them.Image Source / Business InsiderEither way it's just to annoy and upset you, or to actually have the goal of asking them out just to get back at you and watch you feel super jealous to annoy you.

They Only Pretend To Like You - And It's So Obvious

They may not show any obvious signs that they dislike you at all - in fact, they may the extreme opposite of showering you with praise, smiles and compliments.Image Source / LifehackerBut it's so sickeningly sweet that it's just so obvious that they secretly don't like you and they are trying to over compensate for that.

They Don't Care About Your Good News

If you've good news to share, somebody who is just civil with you and not necessarily a friend may still be genuinely happy for you, like a work colleague or person in passing.Image Source / PexelsBut if they really don't like you or hate you, they're definitely not going to care in the slightest about anything good happening to you.

They Only See You As Competition

They don't see you as a friend, work colleague, or even just someone they know - they only see you as someone that they have to compete with.Image Source / Psychology TodayAnd usually to any extreme, not caring if you get hurt along the way. Anything you succeed with, they want to try to do one better, all the time, no matter what.

They're Always Irritable When You Talk To Them

When you don't like someone, your knee jerk reaction is going to be annoyed as soon as they open their mouth, no matter what they do or don't say.Image Source / Promises Behavioral HealthAnd you're bound to feel irritable when you have to talk to someone who is really getting on your nerves just by being there. Everything they do just grates on you.

They Don't Bother With You On Special Occasions

If someone really doesn't like you, they're not going to bother to even remember your birthday, never mind buy you something special or make a fuss of you.Image Source / PinterestYou won't even be in their orbit when it comes to Christmas or New Year celebrations, so they're not going to remember to send you a card or say some nice words.

They Don't 'Like' Or Comment On Your Posts

If they follow you on social media, they definitely don't take the time or energy to interact with anything you're posting. They'll never like your post.Image Source / QuoraYou may even find that they're lurking - such as showing that they've watched your status update reel - but without ever saying anything or liking anything.

You Find Yourself In Vulnerable Situations They've Purposefully Put You In

If this person knows you well, that means they also know what you do and don't like. They may purposefully put you in situations that would make you uncomfortable.Image Source / Positive PsychologyOr they may try and make you feel vulnerable, such as asking you something personal in front of everyone at the work meeting and smirking as you struggle to answer.

They're Way Too Polite

If a person really despises you but is really trying to hold back and control it, you might find they're way too polite - strangely polite.Image Source / Shropshire StarThey may be a little bit too nice to you, and may even do that whole forced politeness that makes them feel like a stranger rather than someone you know.

They Try (Or Succeed) To Gaslight You

A person would never try to gaslight someone else if they actually liked or cared about them, because it's a horrible manipulation tool. So if a person doesn't like you, they may try to gaslight you.Image Source / The Human Capital HubEspecially if it relates to their negative behaviour towards you. You might call them out on how horrid they've been to you only for them to say it's all in your imagination.

The Silences Are Only Ever Awkward

When you like someone and you're comfortable with them, silences can often be comfortable and you can just sit and enjoy each other's presence without words.Image Source / QuoraBut if there's hatred in the air, it's only ever going to feel awkward being silent around them. You may feel like you're being ignored or that there's a huge elephant in the room.

They've Actually Hidden You On Social Media

Obviously this one is a little tricky to know, because you'd have to see it for yourself, or have them tell you. But hiding someone on social media is a sure sign they don't like you!Image Source / blog.hubspot.comThey don't want anything to do with you to pop up on their feed, but they also don't want to outright delete or block you in case you notice.