Emotional Signals That Show Your Partner Wants To Break Up With You

By Nick Hadji 11 months ago

1. They stop hanging out with you.

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This is an early sign that perhaps your partner wants to break up with you - and it's a bit of an obvious one. If you've noticed that whenever you suggest plans, they ignore you or purposely find something else to do, then it's a sign they might not want to be with you anymore.Original content sourced from Femanin.com

2. They find excuses.

Finding ExcusesImage Source: totempool.comHave you suggested an event or activity to your partner, and they've come up with a really illogical excuse not to go? Then they might be planning on breaking up with you. The more illogical the excuse, the more you should be worried. Things like 'I have to work' or 'I don't think you really want to go to that, do you?' are common.

3. They stop doing things for you.

Jesy-Nelson-Chris-HughesImage Source: thesun.co.ukWhen you're in a relationship, you'll usually want to please your partner and ensure they're happy. You might do little things for them, like making them tea, picking up something while shopping that you know they want, or offering to do the washing up. When these little acts stop, your partner might be thinking you're not worth those little actions anymore.

4. They pick fights with you.

Couple FightingImage Source: brides.comFighting happens in any relationship, especially long-term ones. However, there's a difference between the occasional fight and feeling like you get into one every evening. If your partner continually picks fights - over big things or little things - it might be a sign that all is not well.

5. They become secretive.

couple with secretsImage Source: insider.comEveryone has secrets, but when you're in a relationship, you should be prepared to be honest with one another. If you feel that your partner isn't being honest anymore or being outright secretive about where they're going or what they're doing, it's a surefire sign that they might want to break up with you.

6. You start to feel unappreciated.

feeling unappreciatedImage Source: goodmenproject.comDo you feel as if your partner is now taking you for granted? Whether that's because they don't do things that you ask them to do anymore or stop saying nice things to you, if you start to feel unappreciated, take it as a sign that your partner might not be happy in the relationship anymore.

7. You don't get intimate as often anymore.

Getting Intimate with partnerImage Source: womenshealthmag.comSex isn't the be-all and end-all in a relationship, but for some people, it can be really important. Getting intimate can make you feel close to your partner, so if you start to feel like your partner is avoiding them or not wanting to get intimate as often, something might be wrong.

8. Their friends start getting weird with you.

Boyfriends FriendsImage Source: zoosk.comNot everyone is friends with their partners' friends, but if you are, you can usually get a feeling from them when something is up. Are they not as friendly with you anymore? Or, in contrast, are they overly friendly and sympathetic toward you? They might know something that you don't.

9. They stop communicating as frequently.

couple not talkingImage Source: tumblr.comCommunication is key in a relationship - it might actually be the number one most important thing. So, if your partner stops talking to you - if they stop wanting to discuss things, or stop replying to your texts - it means they might be thinking about breaking up with you.

10. You spend more time apart.

Spending time aloneImage Source: healthline.comTime apart is natural in every relationship, but of course, you want to spend time with your partner! If you find that your partner stops hanging out with you, whether they have an excuse for it or not, they might be intentionally creating some distance so that they can break up with you.

11. They stop replying to your texts.

partner texting someone elseImage Source: marriage.comReal-life communication is important, but virtual communication is also vital. Do you find that your partner isn't responding to you when you ask them how they are? Or if you suggest doing something at the weekend? They might not want to say anything because they're thinking of breaking up.

12. They stop talking about the future.

Engaged pictureImage Source: dailymail.co.ukOne of the most important signs to look out for is that your partner stops thinking about their future with you. Did you use to talk a lot about house buying, getting a pet, or moving somewhere new? Has that stopped recently, or does your partner seem less interested in it? It might signify that they don't see a future with you.

13. You see them showing interest in other people.

man looking at other womanImage Source: vixendaily.comThis might not be overt (only someone really awful would take it to that level), but if you get a sense that your partner is looking at other people more often than usual, or commenting on other people, they might be getting ready to break up with you.

14. They compare you to other people.

Couple riding subwayImage Source: insider.comDo you find that your partner is starting to compare you to others people like, god forbid, their ex? Or even an older version of yourself? Comments like 'You never used to be this messy' or 'Why don't you ask for that haircut at the salon next time' could be a sign that they're starting to tire of you.

15. They're not as excited around you as before.

Excited coupleImage Source: pinterest.comYou can sense when someone is excited and content - it's a feeling that you get. If you sense that your partner isn't as excited to do stuff with you as before - whether that's food shopping or just watching your favourite TV show - it might be a vital sign they want to break up with you.

16. They stop calling you by your cute nickname.

couple in liftImage Source: pinterest.comEvery couple has cute nicknames for each other. Whether they're dirty, overly sweet, or a little bit insulting, nicknames are a way of saying 'we know each other better than anyone.' If your partner has stopped calling you by your nickname, it might be a sign that they've grown uncomfortable with that level of intimacy.

17. They prefer not to make plans.

Couple on day outImage Source: PexelsBy this, we don't even mean plans far away in the future, like a holiday or getting a pet. If you suggest to your partner somewhere you might visit for the day on the weekend, or go to the cinema next week, and they seem disinterested, they might be starting to think about breaking up.

18. They start to lie.

Boyfriend keeping secretsImage Source: nytimespost.comWhite lies are normal - everybody says them. Whether that's 'I'm fine' when you're not or 'I'm not hungry' when you are, they're usually nothing to worry about. However, if you notice your partner is lying more frequently, it could be a sign that they're thinking about how to get out of the relationship.

19. They're more absent than normal.

Image Source: RedditDo you find that your partner just gets up and leaves the house now without saying where they're going? Or that they come home from work later and later each evening without notifying you in advance? This could be a sign that they don't want to be around you anymore, and are thinking about breaking up.

20. You don't get as many compliments from them anymore.

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It's natural to want to compliment your other half in a relationship. You're with them because you think they're the best, right? Well, if those compliments stop coming from your partner, even if they're just little ones, it's a sign to start worrying, as maybe they just don't like you as much anymore.

21. They seem irritated.

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It's normal for people to be irritated sometimes, but if you start to notice your partner being irritated more often than normal, it could be a sign that they're starting to get annoyed by you. This could manifest in them getting snippy about what you're cooking for dinner, or annoyed with what you say.

22. You make more of an effort than them.

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Have a think about when the last time you did something nice for your partner was. Now, think about the last time they did something nice for you. Is this more difficult? Can you even remember the last time they made an effort, or went out of their way to make your life better? This could be a sign they want to break up.

23. They struggle to make conversation.

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Making conversation with your partner should be effortless. They're the person you love most in the world, you should always have things to say to each other! But if you find that it's actually becoming difficult, or they ignore the things you say more often, they might have something else on their mind.

24. They get angry more often than usual.

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Irritation is one thing, but anger is another. If, as well as picking fights with you, they're also getting angry by the things you do or the way you do them, it might be time to think about whether they're getting ready to break up with you. Continual anger isn't normal.

25. They joke about breaking up with you.

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This is a pretty bad one, but a good sign to watch out for, at least. If your partner has joked about breaking up with you just once, you might let it go, but if they joke almost all the time (say, a few times a week) about breaking up, you might have to think it's a serious suggestion.

26. You feel like you're not good enough.

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Never mind what your partner is doing - have you started to think that you're not good enough? Where has that come from? If it's come from the changes that your partner has made recently - lack of communication, lack of compliments, lack of sex - it could be another sign that your partner is waiting to break up with you.

27. They start making big changes in their life.

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Have they started making changes that you're not privy to? For example, have they bought a new car without telling you, decided to quit their job, or pulled money out of your joint account to put in their own savings pot? These are all signs you should look out for.

28. They stop saying 'I love you.'

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This is a critical one. You might just be a couple that is comfortable not saying I love you all the time, and that's okay. But if your partner has stopped saying it completely - even after you've said it - it might be time to wonder if something is going on.

29. They don't agree with you on anything.

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Coming to an agreement is an important part of a relationship, even if it means a compromise. But if your partner has started to completely disagree with you on everything, not take your side, and refuse to compromise, it might be a sign that they don't want to be with you anymore.

30. They stop trying to talk about things.

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Has your partner completely cut you off? Have they stopped trying to talk about anything, withdrawn themselves from their home, and only talked to their family? This is the final sign that you should be expecting a break-up talk in the near future. At least you're prepared for it, right?

31. They are no longer affectionate

Image Source: News18Affection is a huge tell tale sign of whether their is still love in a relationship, or whether someone wants to break up. Affection can be a hug, a cuddle at night a tiny little squeeze of the knee - anything. But they are massively important and huge indicators of feelings and caring for someone.

32. You do not feel like they see really you

Image Source: Cosmopolitan.comYes, they see you...but do they really see you? As in, take notice that you are wearing that top they used to love on you. Or, the fact that you cut your hair shorter? Or that you look really upset? If not, then it means they are not paying real attention to you which could mean they are no longer invested in you and the relationship.

33. They give very blunt answers

Image Source: ABC.comWhen someone wants to break up, they will no longer have interested in the normal conversations you usually would have. Or, in telling you things. So, when you try and ask them about their day or how they are they will answer very short or blunt questions to try and shut down the conversation quickly.

34. They stop asking you things

Image Source: lovepanky.comWhen someone is into someone or they love someone, they want to know how that person is or what they did. Even the tiny little details are interesting to you when you love that person. For example, the little mundane details such as what they had for their tea.

35. You barely kiss

Image Source: PinterestSometimes it is normal for physical intimacy to dip in long term relationships. Sometimes you may go through a period where you and your partner don't have sex for example. But kissing should remain, even if it is a peck before you head out to work or a quick kiss to say goodnight.

36. They are always on their phone

Image Source: Men'sHealth.comWhen your partner wants to break up with you they will be finding interest in many other things. They'll suddenly start spending way more time on their phone scrolling on social media, chatting to friends. It may even be watching videos so that they are spending less time alone with you.

37. They start spending way more time with their friends

Image Source: PinterestUsually there is a good balance established in a  relationship where you have time for one another but you also have separate time with friends. Now, maybe they seem much more inclined to spend time i=with their friends than you and it may seem like they are with them the majority of the time.

38. They don't even bother to argue back

Image Source: atelia.comArguing very often is not a good sign. But neither is it a good sign when your partner does not even bother arguing back or responding to you in an argument. This can mean they may not care about the relationship enough anymore to want to fight for it.

39. They won't commit to anything

Image Source: BestLifeWhen your partner stops committing to anything this could be a sign that they are wanting to break up with you. You may try to put dates in the diary and you cannot seem to pin them down. Even if is in three weeks, or it is important to you, or it is a day you know they are free usually.

40. They stop inviting you

Image Source: Times of IndiaHave they stopped inviting you to things? Even things that they always used to invite you too? It may tea with their parents, hanging out with their friends, the work party... They may stop inviting you and start attending alone because they could be close to breaking up with you.

41. They never laugh around you

Image Source: TaylorLorenz.comDo they never seem to laugh around you anymore? Laughter and humour are such important things in a relationship. It is important that you enjoy one another's company and have fun.  If this has stopped...maybe it's a signal they want to break up with you.

42. You partner has more negative things to say than positive

Image Source: TaylorLorenz.comWhen your partner has checked out of the relationship and they are ready to break up they will find it hard to find positive things to say. Especially if it is anything to do with the relationship or you two together. They will start making more and more negative comments.

43. They starts hiding you on social media

Image Source: The Inquisitive MindSome people just don't post on social media very often. The signal is if they used to post pictures of you or with you...and then they suddenly stop. This is as though because they want to break up, they do not want outsiders thinking you are in a relationship still.

44. They never opens up or confides in you anymore

Image Source: theverygirl.comHave they stopped opening up to you? Stopped confiding in you? This could be a signal that they are ready to break up with you. Once this has stopped in a relationship it shows that there is no longer that closeness between you anymore, whether that is mutual or one sided.

45. They seems miserable around you

Image Source: theknot.comIf your boyfriend or girlfriend is acting miserable around you then this may be a sign they want to break up. Of course, they could be struggling with something outside of the relationship or their own emotions. However, if it is you they are miserable around, it may be the relationship that is bothering them.

46. …But fine with their friends

Image Source: Yourtango.comThis is the difference between something that they may is suffering in general, or that it is the relationship itself that is bothering them. If they are miserable around you and fine with their friends then it is a strong indicator that they are no longer happy in the relationship and wants to break up.

47. You don't feel like you can confide in him

Image Source: YourTango.comIt will inevitably lead to you putting your guards up to protect yourself because you feel that if you confide in him, you will receive an answer that is dismissive of you. Emotional support in a relationship is necessary so if they are unwilling to give this, it's a sign that they want to break up.

48. You feel in your gut they have checked out of the relationship

Image Source: bornobology.comWe all know the saying - listen to your gut. And for good reason. If you feel in your gut that something is wrong then you should acknowledge it and confront it because your instincts are often right and they are there to protect you from getting hurt.

49. They forget things you've told them

Image Source: psypostWhen your partner wants to break up with you they will not mention the little things you tell them anymore. Remembering little things about your partner is a sign of love that you care and really listen tot hem. So when this stops, it is a definite sign to watch out for.

50. They become much more money focused

Image Source: regain.comBy this we do not mean that your partner suddenly becomes more focused on money in general or more money motivated. But, that within the relationship they start keeping tabs more on who is spending, and they will not want to spend money on you because they do not see the relationship as continuing anymore.