30 Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Psychopath Copy
By molly atherton
1 year ago
1. They're Superficially Charming
Image Source / InsiderPsychopaths excel in being charming in order to flatter people, get what they want and be liked. While this is possible for people to naturally possess these traits, a psychopath's charming nature will often be superficial. They won't really mean what they say, they're just being charming for the sake of it.Original content sourced from Femanin.com2. They Constantly Need To Be Stimulated And Bore Easily
Image Source / Appreciation at WorkPsychopaths crave that stimulation, whatever it may mean to them. It could be simply the act of doing something, getting attention or achieving some sort of goal. They might often get bored very easily, such as suddenly switching to bored and irritable during a day out.3. They Try To Manipulate You, Or Others
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4. They Lie On A Regular Basis
Image Source / LooperHabitually lying is another key sign. It doesn't even have to be tall tales, either. It could be the simplest lie, like lying about why they left the car keys. If you're finding that you're calling them out on a stack of lies that just keep adding up, this could be a sign.5. They Lack Empathy
Image Source / People MattersEmpathy is one of the biggest traits a psychopath can lack. This is because they simply don't care about understanding other people's feelings. If their behaviour is hurting someone - such as you- they may be unable to empathise with you, or be unwilling to even try. They just can't put themselves in your shoes.6. Display Impulsive Behaviour
Image Source / Medical News TodayWe're all guilty of impulsive behaviour sometimes - buying something we probably shouldn't because it's on sale, for example - but for a psychopath, this could be dangerously impulsive behaviour. Getting into debt with bold purchases, or making impulsive decisions about the home or career. Or it could be everyday acts of impulsiveness.7. They Refuse To Accept Responsibility For Their Actions
Image Source / Inc. MagazineA psychopath doesn't want to be blamed. They don't believe they should be blamed. And if they are directly responsible for something, the chances are they aren't going to apologise off their own bat because they don't want to accept responsibility for their own actions. This could apply to anything - home life, relationships or work.8. They Have A Huge Ego
Image Source /A grandiose sense of importance goes hand in hand with a psychopath a lot of the time. They're going to have a huge ego, which is why they believe so vehemently that they're always in the right, they're a charming and amazing person, and they deserve to get what they want through any means necessary.9. They're Self-Obsessed
Image Source / UnsplashA psychopath is going to look out for number one, and it won't be you if you're in a relationship with one. They're going to be obsessed with themselves and what they want. With this in mind, you may find it difficult to work out a compromise in a relationship if you hit any hurdles, as they're only focusing on what they're doing and what they want.10. They Don't Show Any Remorse For Their Actions
Image Source / BidsketchIn the same vein as lacking empathy, psychopaths won't show remorse or guilt. They can't empathise, sympathise or feel bad about anything if it's benefitted them, or if they stand by their actions. Even if you, or anyone else, gets hurt by what they've done, they probably aren't going to care - even if they claim they do.11. They Try And Justify Any Wrongdoings
Image Source / UCL BlogsIf they've done anything wrong, they're going to try and wriggle out of it. And a lot of the time this might not be denying it, it might just be trying to claim why what they did was the right thing, and why it had to be done. They'll claim they did the right thing and that's that. There's no convincing them otherwise.12. They Have A Shallow Outlook On Things
Image Source / PeoplePsychopaths often focus on their own image, and how important that image is. This could be their status, power or wealth. They often have a shallow outlook on things because they can't see the deeper level. They might want the surface level of looking as though they're successful, rich or anything else that makes them look good.13. They Try To Exploit The Goodwill Of Others
Image Source / Experience Life - LifeTime.LifeAs mentioned, manipulation can be a go-to tactic. If they can then use this to exploit other people's goodwill, they're probably going to do it. If they know that friends, family members or other people they know (including you) are kind, generous people, they might try to exploit that to get something from you.14. They Can't Seem To Hold A Long-Term Relationship
Image Source / The New York TimesYou may have got into a relationship with someone new and it's looking good for the long-term deal. But if they're telling you stories about how you're the first long-term relationship they've had after a string of short and failed relationships, this might be a red flag.15. They Are Sexually Promiscuous
Image Source / GreatistYour partner might also have been sleeping with other people while in a relationship with you, or maybe they've told you about how many people they've slept with in the past. This again falls into the point of them not being able to hold a long-term relationship. Psychopaths can look for those impulsive and shallow connections of sleeping around.16. They Don't Have Any Long-Term Goals
Image Source / Search Engine JournalThis can fall into the same idea that they struggle with that long-term commitment aspect. That isn't to say that psychopaths can't create long-term goals, but usually these might be completely unrealistic and highly likely to fail. Psychopaths might care for nothing more than the here and now - impulsive behaviour - and what they want in the here and now.17. They Don't Have Respect For Authority
Image Source / EntrepreneurPsychopaths, with their huge egos and inability to admit when they're wrong, are naturally going to have a problem with authority. This could be the biggest authority figure of all, such as the government or the police, or it could be their boss. It could even be you trying to put your foot down with relationship issues and them not liking you acting as though you're in charge.18. They Never Admit They're Wrong
Image Source / kindpngA psychopath's ego is never going to let them admit that they're in the wrong. Even if they say they're wrong or apologise, this can be another manipulation tactic just to get what they want or make you believe they're sorry when they're not. You might find you're in frequent arguments with them where they just refuse to admit they are at fault.19. They Never Believe They're Wrong
Image Source / NewsThumpIt goes far beyond simply admitting they're wrong, too. In their mind, they actually convince themselves there's no possible way they could be wrong. Because their ego won't allow it. If something has gone wrong or a fall out has happened, they won't believe they're not in the right - and they'll never budge on that.20. They're Very Intelligent
Image Source / New ScientistPsychopaths are often very high-functioning and have a high intelligence score. That doesn't mean that they're a mastermind or that only intelligent people can be psychopaths - in fact, psychopaths can have very low intelligence too - it's more about they're usually very clever in their actions and manipulations.21. They Don't Show Signs Of A Conscience
Image Source / WikipediaLacking empathy is one step away from lacking a conscience, too. There might not really by any sense of right or wrong, and more what they believe is right and when they believe they're never in the wrong. They may not feel any guilt about manipulating people or taking advantage of people to get what they want.22. They Don't Have Any Inhibitions
Image Source / Mental FlossPsychopaths usually aren't stopped by anything getting in their way, so it's likely they won't have inhibitions in social situations or situations where they need to show their reward-seeking and confidence. They don't tend to be shy or withdrawn because they have the confidence to be charming when they need to be.23. They Have A History Of Problematic Behaviour (Especially As A Child)
Image Source / TVLinePsychopaths may have a history of difficult behaviour. This sense of self importance or lack of empathy may have manifested young and may have led to issues between them as a child and other children or people. Or they may just have a history of problematic behaviour as an adult, such as failed relationships.24. They Show Reckless Behaviour
Image Source / EntrepreneurAs mentioned, psychopaths can have no inhibitions when it comes to their impulses, which can result in reckless behaviour. The reason they're also more likely to behave recklessly on a regular basis is because they have difficulty feeling remorse or difficulty learning from mistakes, which can mean reckless actions repeated again and again.25. You've Been Love-Bombed And Flattered To The Max
Image Source / Inc. MagazineYou've met someone new and they've showered you with extreme love and affection. It can seem too good to be true that somebody can show you that much affection - so of course you're going to date them. But love-bombing is a dangerous manipulation tactic. The psychopath will want to disarm you by many displays of affection so they can lure you in.26. And Then They'll Suddenly Act Like They're Bored Of You
Image Source / MensXPThe reason love-bombing is a dangerous tactic is that it can often be the first step in a cycle of abuse. Once you have been lured in by the vast amounts of affection - such as agreeing to enter a relationship or move in with them - they may suddenly stop their affection and act bored of you. This is because they have got what they want and can now use their love-bombing as a reason to make you feel bad for complaining about them being distant.27. They'll Spin A Sob Story Or Two
Image Source / WikipediaAs part of their manipulation tactics, psychopaths might tell very tall tales to get you on side. While you're dating them, they might tell you sob stories about how every ex has cheated on them or treated them horribly when it might not even be true. They'll say anything to garner sympathy.28. Power Games Can Be Normality
Image Source / Science of PeoplePsychopaths enjoy having power over people, feeling as though they're the master puppeteer. Power games will be common, with them feeling smug or getting a buzz from seeing the successful result of their mind games or manipulations. Power games could include psychological abuse like gaslighting.29. If There's A Problem, Then You're The Problem
Image Source / The Indian ExpressIf there are problems in the relationship and you try to talk it out with them, it can be like talking to a brick wall. If you have valid points to make about what they've done wrong, they probably won't want to hear it. If you're complaining about the relationship then you're the one creating problems, in their eyes. They may even gaslight you into thinking you're imagining a problem where there isn't one.30. You Don't Even Know Yourself Anymore
Image Source / Elemental - MediumKnowing you're in a relationship with a psychopath can be a lot about who you have become as a person. As a result of such a relationship, you may find that you're not the happy, carefree and relaxed person you were. You may be riddled with self-doubt and anxiety because of how the psychopath has manipulated you to feel.31. They Enjoy The Thrill Of Danger
Image Source/dangertime.comThey completely enjoy the thrill of danger and have no real sense of it. Doing illegal things or dangerous things seems fun for them rather than instilling a sense of anxiety as it would for most people. And they lack a sense of morality so these coupled together is a dangerous combination.32. They May Call You Boring Because You Do Not
Image Source/psychologytoday.comBecause they do not have the same feelings as other people, their relationship to danger is very different from the norm - and so they may encourage you to also do dangerous/ illegal things along with them. If you refuse they may try and tell you that you are boring and no fun to be around and make you question yourself.33. They Frequently Play On Your Emotions
Image Source/newsmedicalAs we have seen physcopaths are the masters of manipulation. And so playing on your emotions is all part and parcel of this. They will play on your emotions constanly to get you to feel however they intend at the time - for entirely their own purpose or own satisfaction.34. You Don't Trust Them
Image Source/openacessgovernmentA pyscopath will give you every reason not to trust them, and so you won't - for very good reason. Because it very unlikely that you really can trust them, whether this is with your emotions or finances. At the starts of the relationship they will gain your trust and then slowly things will start to reverse.35. They Tell You That You Can't Break Up With Them
Image Source/TheIndepedentOnce you are in a relationship with a psycopath it will feel very difficult to get out of the relationship. In fact, they will probably tell you that you can never leave them, making you feel anxious about how they would react if you ever decided to leave them.36. They Involve You In Love Triangles
Image Source/BuzzFeedA psycopath will never be satisfied witht he attention from one person, and feeling attention from multiple people is what they crave. They will involve other people and try to display to you how 'in demand' they are so that you feel lucky to have them.37. They Call You Crazy
Image Source/TVserialA psycopath will make you feel as though you are crazy...and they will probably tell you that you are so that you question yourself and not them. Their actions will intend to make you feel on edge and their words will make you question if it is you and not them...38. And Over Sensitive
Image Source/pyschcentralThey will also most probably call you over sensitive on a frequent basis. When in response to their words or actions you display the very emotion that they intended to provoke - they will call you over sensitive and blame your response on you rather than on them.39. They Rewrite Reality
Image Source/MasterClassReality to them is completely based on their ideas of the truth. They will totally rewrite reality so that their version of events are totally different to what actually happened. This is done so that everything fits their narrative and probably to excuse or justify their own behaviour.40. They Frequently Try To Make You Jealous
The IndependentMaking you feel jealous is an extremely common occurence when being in a relationship with a psycopath. They will use other people, who may be exes or people from their past to make you feel jealous. They will then most likely blame you for being over jealous, rather than admitting their fault.41. They Are Very Selfish
Image Source/TLNTIf you are in a relationship with a psycopath or know of somebody who is, you will know that they are extremely selfish. The only person they truly care about is themselves and everybody else is merely to fulfil a purpose. Your needs will not be on their radar as a priority.42. They Make You Feel Anxious
Image Source/reachoutaustraliaYou will find yourself feeling completely anxious. Being in a relationship drains you and you end up feeling anxious all of the time about almost everything. Of course, this is not something that they will recognise as their fault and they will blame this on yourself.43. They Are Unpredictable In Mood And Actions
Image Source/americanpyschologyassociationBeing in a relationship with somebody like this means that they are totally unpredicatble in both their moods and actions. You will feel totally on edge as to whether they will be in a good/bad mood or how they will act. And this can all change in a second.44. They Ruin Relationships With Your Friends
Image Source/TabloidxoYou may have noticed if you have ever been in this situation or have witnessed people in relationships with psycopaths that they begin to become distanced from friends or loved ones. They will make it difficult fo you to see other people and they may cause issues in your relationships with friends/family and reasons for you not to see them and spend time with them.45. They Have A Constant Thirst For Attention
Image Source/The GuardianTheir thirst for attention is never ending. And after that initial 'honeymoon' period you will realise that you cannot satisfy their craving for attention because they tend to need it from lots of people. As a result of this it will make you feel as though you can never fulfill their needs.46. They Make You Question Yourself
Image Source/Oprah.comBecause of their powers of manipulation, being in a relationship with a pyscopath will make your question yourself. They will make you question your feelings and if they are valid and they will make you question whether it is actually you that is in the wrong.47. They Are Very Narcassistic
Image Source/psychologytodayBeing in a relationship with a psycopath, is essenitally being in a relationship with someone who only loves themself or has thoughts for themself. And so, everything will be about them and their needs and emotions. You will be and feel secondary and insignificant to them.48. You End Up Spending A Lot Of Money On Them
Image Source/wikipediacommons.comBeing in a relationship with a psycopath ends up draining you not only emotionally but also financially. They are often financially dependent on others because they have no self discipline or control with their funds. They will also provide an excuse as to why they cannot currently provide for themselves.49. They Use Personal Information Against You
Image Source/abebooksThe thing is with being with a pyscopath, the start of the relationship was so great as we have already seen and so you open up fully to this person. This means that you have probably shared personal information about yourself with them, and they will bring this up in the future and hold it against you - for example, if you tried to break up with them.50. They Have Bursts Of Uncontrolled Anger
Image Source/americanpsychologyassociationA psycopath cannot control their emotions. So, when they have a burst of anger they will display it in a rage. They do not think about the consequences of their actions and so they let their emotions take full rein. Becaause of this, they sometimes end up in fights or violence.Here a some signs that your partner might be cheating on you. 1. Lack of eye contact
Image source / QuotevIf anything screams guilt it’s a lack of eye contact... They say the eyes are windows to the soul and a total inability to look at you could well be a red flag. We can all picture the ‘guilty kid’ who is being confronted by their parents, they literally can’t bear to look at them for the shame.2. The over explainer...
Image source / VistaCreateFrom one guilt avoidance tactic to another… the over explainer. If someone accuses you of something but you’re innocent you remain surprisingly calm, confident in your knowledge that they have their facts wrong. If however you have something to hide, you’re far more likely to get a loose tongue! Desperate to appear guilt-free, people who are lying will often start babbling - watch out for it.3. Phones away!
Image source / KTAR NewsIt’s natural for you and your partner to be looking at your phones when sat next to each other. What’s not natural though is if they suddenly lock the screen upon noticing your eyes looking their way. I can think of few more obvious signs that that, it’s like they’re literally going ahh, don’t look.4. Selective memory
Image source / Stuart Miller SolicitorsWe’ve all watched the crime dramas where the guilty person’s story changes in a second interview. You can almost hear the penny drop inside the inspector’s head. Well, if your partner seems to suffer from a selective or ever-changing memory issue then perhaps their story isn’t so fail safe after all.5. No interest in sex
Image source / TheHungryJPEG.comAfter the ‘honeymoon period’ is over, it’s normal for most couples to ease up a little on the bedroom antics. That being said, you’ll still know roughly how often you like to get between the sheets. So, if this number suddenly drops and your previously frisky partner would now simply roll over and go to sleep you may be left wondering what’s causing the turn off.6. Embarrassed by you
Image source / Her NormThere’s no nicer feeling than being introduced to your partner’s friends and family at the start of a relationship. If it’s a healthy set up, you’ll likely feel like they’re showing you off - proud as punch at their new, better half. So flipping that on its head, imagine feeling as though your partner is embarrassed of you when you’re around their nearest and dearest. It may not necessarily be a sign they’re cheating but regardless, no one should be made to feel that way - if you do, it's time to leave.7. No more invites
Image source / Keep Calm-o-MaticExtending this idea further, if your partner has full on stopped inviting you to events with them then they are already mentally detaching from you. Forget acting embarrassed to have you in their presence, they want you out of their life and are making it pretty darn obvious too.8. Getting your name wrong
Image source / DreamstimeHearing your boyfriend or girlfriend say someone else’s name would be a real stinger. Sure, people slip up but if the name is one you recognise or, god forbid you hear it when making out then alarm bells should be ringing - they have some serious questions to answer.9. Too much screen time
Image source / The VergeOk my screen time isn’t something I’m proud of (I blame you Instagram!) Either way, it’s pretty steady week on week. With that in mind, imagine you suddenly notice that your partner is spending more time on their phone. I mean, a LOT more time. Suspicious…10. Glued to their phone
Image source / UnsplashTalking of phones, have you noticed that your partner seems glued to theirs? As in, they won’t leave a room without it firmly in their hand or pocket? It could well be a sign they have something to hide. Why not try tucking it behind a pillow or something else nearby and seeing if they frantically search for it before leaving the room.11. Defensive
Image source / AskAprilNo one likes being called out. In fact, it’s in our human nature to ‘maintain face’ and have those around us believe in the person we are portraying to the outside world. It makes sense then to be suspicious of someone if they become very defensive. Nothing quite says guilty conscience than someone becoming argumentative or wound up when questioned.12. Overly friendly
Image source / PinterestThis one can be hard to wrap your head around at first but trust me, you’ll be glad you knew about it. If your friends and family cannot get enough of your partner (perhaps even more than when they first met them) feel suspicious. It can be a clever manipulation tactic on the part of the cheater to ‘keep their friends close but their enemies closer.’13. Ignoring you
Image source / Living HoursOn a less subtle note, if you’ve suddenly stopped getting replies to messages and calls then that’s a pretty sure sign something is up. Of course, it could be a variety of reasons (a busy period at work, their phone has died etc) but if it carries on over a few months then you might start wondering why the loss of interest.14. Random trips out
Image source / Driving-Tests.orgPicture the scene - you’re sat indoors, chilling and watching TV. You’ve already eaten and the fridge is stocked up with snacks. Despite this, your partner has a sudden need to go to the shop. They simply can’t wait until the following day and just have to go and get that seemingly irrelevant item. Hmmm. Why not insist on going with them and see their reaction?15. Unexplained trips away
Image source / New York PostWe’ve already said that from time to time your partner will genuinely be busier and therefore more aloof. Depending on their job, there will likely be points in the year where they are more stressed and are able to commit less time to your relationship, fair enough. But what if certain work commitments or even work trips can’t be proven? Maybe they were ‘out of town’ for a conference but have no photos to show for their time away. That new project that’s keeping them so busy - what is it? Can they describe it in detail? How about in front of their colleagues!?16. Things don't match up
Image source / Clark HowardOn the flip side, your partner might be covering their tracks. Perhaps they told you they were going to stay at a local buddy’s place and yet their gas has gone right down. Or have they got an impossible sun tan despite the local weather being gray and cloudy?17. Change of taste in music
Image source / XDA DevelopersIf you’ve been with your partner for more than a few weeks you’re going to have a pretty good idea on their taste in music, fashion, food etc. So what if one or all of these were to suddenly change? You’d be right to feel a little confused. People are very influenced by those they hang around with, especially those they’re looking to please…18. An unexplained skill
Image source / QuoraIf it’s not a sudden new interest in heavy metal that’s caught your attention then perhaps your partner has acquired a new skill. Unexplained guitar pro or tennis extraordinaire - where and WHY did they learn these new tricks? No seriously, who are they trying to impress?19. New skills in the bedroom
Image source / The GuardianTalking of new tricks… if you’re lucky enough that your partner is still showing you interest in the bedroom then watch out for this one. Imagine you’re halfway through love-making and everything feels pretty familiar (you have been together a while after all). Suddenly, you notice them doing something new. Sure, it may feel nice but if you’ve never discussed it then it may leave you wondering where they learnt it from.20. Splashing the cash
Image source / 20OceansVibeWe’re all having to keep an eye on our finances these days but if your partner seems to be struggling more than you’d expect you may be wondering why. You spend most days with them right? So you’d generally know what they had been spending on. If you can’t account for their spending in your mind, you may want to see those bank statements.21. New efforts to look good
Image source / WikihowDoes your partner have a new haircut? Or maybe they’ve been hitting the gym extra hard recently. These changes in appearance and newfound efforts can be great - so long as they’re partnered with a continued interest in you. If your partner is distant to you but obsessed with themself I’d be asking questions.22. But 0 effort around you
Image source / NDTV Special ProjectsOn the other hand, you may notice your partner has become a total waster. Even showers are a novelty these days for this lazy, couch potato you once fell in love with. If they’ve stopped making an outward effort to be pleasant to be around then maybe they just don’t value your relationship enough. Worse still, maybe there’s someone else out there who they do make an effort for.23. Argumentative
Image source / Psychology TodaySure, all relationships have their ups and downs. In fact, it would probably be unhealthy if you never had arguments. But what if your partner was becoming more and more combative? Seemingly picking fights for no reason at all? It could be their way of trying to push you away. Of course, if your partner becomes aggressive in any way, leave or call a friend who can help you.24. No romance
Image source / The Dating DivasNot every man and woman in the world is a hopeless romantic and you’ll know where your partner sits on the mush scale. That being said, all couples enjoy spending time together and making memories. Whether it’s going to the movies or a chilled out night in, you’ll know what you and your partner enjoy doing. So what if that suddenly dries up? If your partner has stopped expressing an interest in spending time with you you may be left wondering what’s changed.25. Password reset
Image source / LitmusWhilst no one would advocate having you and your partner knowing each other’s passwords and social logins (that would be a bit controlling) it’s pretty standard for you to see their Insta or Facebook when left logged in on their phone or laptop. So what if one day these suddenly logged out? It would indicate they had changed their password, right? Sure, this could be innocent enough but if it’s across all their log ins your suspicions might rightly be raised.26. Don't talk to me about the future!
Image source / CharGrilled TshirtsEveryone advocates living in the present moment and not mulling over the past or future. Nonetheless, it can be nice to recount special memories shared with your partner or chat about what your future holds. If your other half zones out at the mention of these past/present chats it could be a sign they don’t have you in their future plans and they’ve already erased their past with you. Gulp!27. Birthday, what birthday?
Image source / Harvard HealthWe all have a few special dates that we share with our partner. Most notably the date you first hooked up, birthdays and, if you’re married, then of course your wedding anniversary. You’d be righty pissed then if your so-called lover forgot one of these supposedly special events. Why don’t they care anymore? Are there more important things on their mind?28. Too many gifts...
Image source / WikihowAs with some of the earlier points, let’s flip that last one on its head. Remember - people can behave in 1 of 2 ways when they’re cheating - totally switching off you or overly switching on to lure you into a false sense of security. So, taking the latter, you may start asking questions if your partner suddenly begins showering you with gifts and becoming more generous than they previously were. Could they be trying to distract you from a deeper issue?29. Fidgets
Image source / LTIADSHere’s a tip worth remembering in general, when people are lying not only will they avoid eye contact, they may well rock back and forth or fidgeting more generally. Take it as their internal discomfort coming out in a physical presentation. Just think - when you’re calm you’re still and serene so when you’re not - you wriggle and squirm!30. That gut feeling
Image source / Medical DailyWe’ve all heard the expression ‘trust your gut’. There may be no better instance that to trust your instincts and listen to your gut feeling than when it comes to cheating. If something doesn’t feel right then sadly, your intuition may well be correct.31. They’re Emotionally Distant
Image Source / Scientific AmericanSometimes you can spend less time with a partner but still feel emotionally connected. Even a ten minute conversation on the phone can connect you emotionally, but if they're emotionally distant, it means they're pulling away. They might not be willing to talk about any feelings whatsoever.32. You’re Spending Less Time Together
Image Source / Tiny BuddhaYou can't always spend every second of the day with a partner, but if you usually always find time only for it to suddenly be a struggle, this could be a sign. If your partner is not making an effort to prioritise time with you less and less as the days go on, it means they're thinking about something - or someone - else.33. They’re Keeping Secrets From You
Image Source / Scientific AmericanThis doesn't just mean the biggest secret of all - that they're cheating on you. It could just be secretive behaviour. Not willing to tell you things, acting suspiciously... Not telling you about things they used to tell you about, being more private day after day.34. They Won’t Speak About Their Day
Image Source / HealthlineAfter a long day, your partner should want to come home to you and tell you all about it - good or bad. Even without much energy, they might explain why they don't want to talk about it. But if they're refusing to say a single thing, it doesn't even necessarily mean they're lying - it just means they're not interested in telling you.35. They’re Encouraging You to Spend More Time With Your Friends
Image Source / The Guide LiverpoolIt might seem like a nice thing to say: 'Oh you should go out with your friends at the weekend! You haven't seen them in ages, go on, it'll be fun!' But all this means is that they're either trying to get rid of you so they can cheat, or they just don't want to be around you.36. They Don’t Seem to Care as Much About You Anymore
Image Source / Reader's Digest AustraliaIt might be as simple as they just don't care that much anymore. They don't ask about your day, because they don't care. They don't ask about where you're going, what you're doing, how your job is... because they don't care.37. They Don’t Share Things Like They Used To
Image Source / HealthlineOnce upon a time, you might have been the first person they told about something that excited them. They might have been willing to share absolutely everything with you. Maybe now they forget to tell you they got promoted, or forgot to tell you about something they saw on the TV.38. They’re A Lot Nicer Than They Used To Be
Image Source / The New YorkerThere could be a few reasons for this. They could be trying to mislead you into thinking they're the best partner ever, or they could be riddled with guilt because of cheating. They might be really nice to you because they do still care about you and feel bad, even though they're cheating.39. Or, They’re A Lot Meaner Than They Used To Be
Image Source / BuzzFeedOn the opposite side of things, they could be being a lot more horrid to you. Again, this could be one of many reasons. They could be feeling guilty but blaming you for that guilty and projecting it on you. They could be being mean because they don't want to be with you and resent spending time with you and not their new secret partner.40. They Have A Bunch Of New Friends
Image Source / HuffPostWho you hang around with can change you. If they've suddenly got new friends, it could mean firstly that one of them could be a person they've taken a new romantic interest in. Or, it could just signal a new step in their life. These are new friends and new people, and you're a part of their old life.41. They’re More Jealous With You
Image Source / NBC NewsEven though they have no right to be jealous about you if they're out behind your back, it can still happen. They want to have their cake and eat it, too. They want to be able to do what they want, and get attention from other romantic partners, but they'll be jealous any time someone takes an interest in you.42. They Wriggle Out Of Plans With Your Friends And Family
Image Source / The Spruce CraftsMaybe it's guilt, or maybe it's because they just don't care anymore - either way, your loved ones are going to be a reminder for them of what they're doing behind your back and how they're betraying you. They'll most likely say no when you invite them to family or friend events, or always make excuses.43. They Want To Know Your Schedule, All The Time
Image Source / ForbesThis could be because they want to know when you're going to be out or away, or it could just be because they're being more controlling and uneasy because of what they're doing. They might want to be overbearing with your schedule because they're carrying guilt about their own.44. You’re Both Really Unhappy
Image Source / POPSUGARIt might not be all secrets and lies. It might be as clear as day that you're both just so miserable. That you wouldn't even be surprised that they're cheating. If you're both so unhappy on a daily basis and no longer feel the connection, they might have naturally just fell into a side relationship with someone else just for the distraction.45. They’re Majorly Defensive About Everything
Image Source / LovePankyThis could be every little thing. Any small comment of a critical nature, like spilling crumbs on the kitchen counter and not cleaning them up, could be met with a full defensive outburst. They know they're doing something wrong, so they're going to be defensive about absolutely anything.46. They Tell You They Want A Break
Image Source / YouTubeA break in a relationship can be a good thing sometimes, and doesn't mean anybody is cheating. However, they could want a break so they're free to 'explore other people' and then when it's out of their system, still have you as a safety net.47. They Try To Vilify You
Image Source / FindLawThey're the one being unfaithful and unfair, but they'll do what they can to justify that by trying to slander you. It might even be because they know the truth will come out one day - so when it does, they don't want to be seen as the bad guy who cheated, so they'll try to paint you in a negative way to everyone around them.48. Their Phone Is Suddenly The Least Reliable Thing In The Universe
Image Source / TwitterOh babe sorry my battery went when you called! My phone must've turned itself off! I didn't even get that message, so sorry! I don't think my phone's working so maybe don't text me for a while... (You know, that sort of thing...)49. They’ve Cheated Before
Image Source / Mark MansonAs the saying goes, once a cheater always a cheater. It's very unlikely that someone who has been happy to cheat in the past will suddenly not want to. They may find it very difficult to stop cheating, and a lot of cheaters will be serial ones.50. Your Relationship Started Because One Of You Was Cheating – Or Both Of You!
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