12+ Signs You Came From A Broken Home
By molly atherton
1 year ago
Hey there, fellow survivors of chaotic family dinners and awkward holiday gatherings! Ever find yourself swapping therapy stories with friends, only to realize that your childhood was a bit more dysfunctional than you thought? Well, welcome to the club, my friend – the "I Came From a Broken Home" support group. In this not-so-scientific, totally unprofessional guide, we're going to explore the hilarious and sometimes cringe-worthy signs that scream, "Yep, I definitely grew up in a circus disguised as a household."
1. You have stress habits, for example, stress cleaning
Ah, stress – the uninvited guest at life's party. Now, we all have our own quirky dance moves when it comes to dealing with it. Some people waltz through it like it's a walk in the park, while others attempt the stress mambo with all the grace of a baby giraffe on roller skates.
Image source/ PinterestEnter the champions of stress response – those folks who've aced the art of cleaning and over-cleaning. Forget about dust bunnies; these warriors see a stray crumb and launch a full-scale domestic military operation. It's not just about cleanliness; it's about creating a spotless fortress to fend off the chaos lurking in the corners of their minds.Original content sourced from Femanin.com2. You moved around a lot as a child
t's like being handed a constantly changing puzzle and being told to solve it while blindfolded. Because, let's face it, navigating through a sea of new faces, unfamiliar hallways, and boxes that seem to multiply like rabbits can be a wild ride.
Image source/ RedditImagine being a kid in this chaos, desperately seeking stability like a sailor yearning for solid ground during a storm. You're not just packing boxes; you're packing up pieces of your life, hoping that when you unpack, you'll find some semblance of the familiar. So, if you've ever felt like a nomad in your own story, complete with the ever-changing backdrop of your life, you're not alone.3. Normal things make you feel nervous
Anxiety – that unwanted friend who overstays their welcome and turns the simplest tasks into an Olympic-level obstacle course. Whether it's venturing out of the house, engaging in a conversation, or staring down the ominous blankness of an email draft, anxiety loves to RSVP to life's party uninvited.
Image source/ etsyNow, if you've ever wondered why your anxiety levels could give a rollercoaster a run for its money, blame it on the broken home alumni club. It's not just a coincidence; it's a survival skill honed in the school of chaos. Will the grocery store turn into a battleground of social awkwardness? Is that innocent email about to morph into a catastrophe of misinterpretation? It's not just overthinking; it's the legacy of a broken home.4. You always think people will leave you
Whether it was a temporary exit or a one-way ticket to the land of farewells, the experience of someone hitting the road tends to leave a lingering echo. Now, it's not like you've got an abandonment complex, but if there were awards for "anticipating exits," you'd probably have a shelf full of trophies
Image source/ RedditComing from a broken home is like having a crash course in the art of goodbyes. It's not just about packing bags; it's about packing emotional baggage that sticks around longer than glitter at a New Year's Eve party. So, when someone new walks into your life, that little voice in your head starts whispering, "When's the other shoe going to drop?".5. You are always apologizing
The art of constant apologizing, it's like a reflex, right? A knee-jerk reaction that's practically hardwired into your system. But here's the kicker: sometimes, it's not just about being Canadian or having impeccable manners; it's a neon sign pointing to deeper, murkier waters.
Image source/ memezFear of letting people down? Check. A chronic worry about becoming the world's chief disappointment officer? Double-check. And let's not forget the grand finale – blaming yourself for things that happen around you, as if you've got a magic wand that controls the universe.6. You block out the world around you
The survival tactics of the broken home Jedi, your brain and body pulling off acrobatic feats to shield you from emotional shrapnel. It's like having an invisible force field, but instead of deflecting lasers, it's deflecting the emotional bombardment life throws your way.
Image source/ RedditGrowing up in a broken home isn't just a crash course in chaos; it's a masterclass in self-preservation. So, when your senses decide to take a coffee break and the world turns into a silent film set, it's not just an odd quirk; it's your mind doing a covert operation to prevent emotional overload.7. You are desperate to keep the peace
When you've been on a first-name basis with turbulence and chaos, peace becomes not just a dream but a holy grail, a precious gem you guard with the fierceness of a dragon protecting its treasure. Imagine a childhood where peace was as rare as a unicorn sighting...
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8. Having a child scares you
Now, if you've been through the tumultuous halls of a broken home, the idea of bringing a tiny human into the world might seem like strapping yourself into the front seat of that rollercoaster without a safety harness. Having a child becomes this bittersweet dance between overwhelming joy and the lingering shadows of fear.
Image source/ QuoraIt's not just about sleepless nights and diaper changes; it's about a deep-seated desire to be the guardian of their innocence, the protector of their laughter, and the shield against the storms you weathered yourself. We al end up just wanting to protect them for as long as we can.9. Any signs of conflict and you are triggered
Conflict... the unwelcome guest at the emotional dinner party. For those who've waltzed through the minefield of a broken home, even a whiff of disagreement can send the panic meters into overdrive. It's like your body has a built-in conflict radar, and the moment it beeps, it's all systems go for full-scale panic mode.
Image source/ The MirrorSo, if you find yourself doing the conflict panic dance, take a deep breath. It's not just about the current disagreement; it's the echoes of past battles reverberating in your emotional landscape. It might seem disproportionate, but hey, your body's just trying to protect you from a déjà vu you'd rather not relive.10. You think that every fight or argument will be the end of the relationship
It's like having a backstage pass to a drama-filled show where every fight seems like the grand finale. If you've weathered the storms of damaging relationships, the very idea of conflict might trigger a mental red alert, with the ominous thought that this could be it – the final curtain call.
Image source/ Business InsiderImagine a mental script that's been written in the ink of past hurts and shattered promises. Any argument becomes a déjà vu trip to the land of relationship doomsday, and you find yourself caught in a loop of fearing the worst. It's not just about arguing with your partner; it's arguing with the ghosts of relationships past, where every disagreement felt like the beginning of the end.11. You close yourself off and won't get too close to people
Ah, the ancient art of relationship self-sabotage – it's like an involuntary defense mechanism kicking in just as things start getting cozy. It's not that you're anti-love; it's just that your inner guard dog has a history of barking up the wrong trees, and now it's on high alert, ready to pounce at the slightest whiff of emotional vulnerability.
Image source/ RedditNow, it's a classic case of shooting yourself in the foot. By preemptively building walls, you might think you're protecting yourself, but in reality, you're handing out eviction notices to potential love and connection. It's like having a VIP ticket to the relationship theater but choosing to watch the show from behind a two-way mirror.12. You feel as though you have to do everything for everyone
Flashback to the days when you had to be your own emotional and practical sherpa, navigating the peaks and valleys of life without a guide. Fast forward to today, and that self-sufficiency becomes both a badge of honor and a potential pitfall. The fear of repeating the patterns from your past transforms you into a one-person task force, taking on the responsibilities that were once left dangling in the void.
Image source/ ForbesIt's not just about being a responsible adult; it's about being an overachiever in the avoidance of déjà vu. You become the unsung hero, ensuring that no responsibility goes unclaimed, no task is left undone, and no emotional need is unattended. It's not that you're a control freak; it's just that you've learned to take the reins because, let's face it, as a child, there were times when the reins were dangling in the wind.13. You feel a disconnect between your body and mind
This is a partnership that, when disrupted by the chaotic choreography of trauma, can leave you feeling like your internal tango has turned into a solo act. It's not just about a temporary misstep; it's like the mind and body decided to take different paths in the labyrinth of coping mechanisms.
Image source/ blogspotIt's not just a disconnect; it's feeling like you're the captain of a ship sailing on uncharted waters with no map or compass. The trauma might have thrown a wrench into the gears of mind-body unity, leaving you with the sensation that you're more of a spectator than an active participant in your own existence.14. You always try and make people happy
If your early years were adorned with the melancholy hues of a broken home, now as an adult, you might be donning the glittering armor of a happiness crusader. It's not just about avoiding the darkness; it's about wanting to be the sunshine in the lives of those you hold dear.
Image source/ RedditImagine a childhood where sadness was a frequent visitor, and joy sometimes felt elusive. Fast forward to the present, and you've become the chief architect of smiles, the maestro of laughter, all in an effort to banish the shadows you once knew too well. It's not just about being a people-pleaser; it's about crafting a world where the soundtrack is a symphony of happiness.15. You cannot stand confrontation or contention
Tell it to hit the trail because you're on a mission to keep things smoother than a glob of peanut butter on a hot slice of toast. You've mastered the art of making showdowns vanish like magic – who needs a front-row seat to chaos when you can be the backstage manager of serenity?
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16. You're always have an escape route ready
So, you're like a strategic mastermind, always entering situations with a mental game plan. But what happens when the plot takes an unexpected turn? Are you the escape artist, brainstorming an exit strategy on the fly? While it might seem like a smart move, it's a bit like having a fire escape plan for every social gathering, it can be a tad over-the-top.
Image source/ RedditSure, being prepared is cool, but constantly plotting your great escape might not be the healthiest habit. It's like keeping an emergency exit sign over your relationships, and that's not exactly a recipe for long-term growth and connection. Sometimes, life throws you a curveball, and instead of having an escape route, maybe it's worth embracing the unexpected plot twists.17. You do not trust people's words
Picture a kid from a broken home, where trust has been chipped away like a sandcastle in the tide. They've seen promises crumble like week-old cookies, and disappointment has become an unwelcome companion. Words? They might seem as sturdy as a house of cards in a gust of wind.
Image source/ wikiSo, while stability builds trust like a skilled architect constructs a skyscraper, a broken home can sometimes feel like trying to build trust on a foundation of Jenga blocks. It's not that the latter child doesn't want to trust; it's just that life has dealt them a tricky hand, and they're learning to navigate choppy trust waters.18. You prepare for the worst
Imagine if your mind were a blockbuster director, but instead of shooting a heartwarming rom-com, it's producing a constant horror film marathon. Always expecting the worst, your mental script is like a pessimistic screenplay, where everything goes south faster than an ice cream cone on a scorching day.
Image source/ PinterestBut here's the plot twist: life isn't just a series of unfortunate events. Sometimes, things go right – it's like expecting a bumpy roller coaster and ending up on the smoothest ride of your life. Predicting doom and gloom might have you missing out on the surprise happy endings and unexpected plot twists that make life so darn interesting.19. You feel anxious frequently
Anxiety, that unwelcome guest that crashes the party of your mind. It's like a storm cloud that just won't budge, especially for those who grew up in a broken home. The looming dread, that feeling of impending doom? Yeah, it hits harder than a water balloon in the face.
Image source/ RedditFor someone from a fractured family background, anxiety isn't just a fleeting sensation; it's like a persistent ghost from the past, tapping on the shoulder whenever things start to feel a little too calm. So, when anxiety creeps in, it's not just an abstract worry; it's a reminder of a childhood where the roller coaster only seemed to plummet.20. You are very protective of the children close to you
Coming from a broken home is like having a crash course in the school of hard knocks. It's the kind of life education that turns you into a vigilant guardian, a protector of your loved ones with an invisible shield that says, "No more pain, not on my watch."
Image source/ Modern Family Wiki FandomIt's not just about being protective; it's like having a security detail for your heart, ensuring that the people you cherish never endure the same heartaches you did. It's the superhero complex without the flashy costume – more like a cozy blanket wrapped around your loved ones.21. Any reprimand/ criticism can cause you distress
Imagine your past as a minefield of reprimands, criticisms, and insults – an emotional obstacle course where negative vibes were more common than a morning cup of coffee. Now, fast forward to today. Even a harmless comment, not meant to sting, feels like a bee in a field of flowers.
Image source/ tribute.caSo, when someone accidentally steps on the landmine of your past experiences, it's not just a little jolt; it's a full-blown emotional earthquake. It's as if your past is sending a text message saying, "Hey, remember me?" and your present is left dealing with the unexpected baggage drop.22. You always feel as though you have let people down
Imagine growing up in a house where the air hung heavy with the weight of disappointment. Now, fast forward to today, and that lingering feeling of letting people down is like an uninvited guest that just won't leave. Growing up in a broken home is like attending the School of Guilt 101.
Image source/ RedditAs a kid, you probably became an unintentional expert at blaming yourself when things went south. It's like being handed a script where you played the role of the one who always messed things up, even if the director was way off base. Now, as an adult, it's as if that childhood script is stuck on a loop.23. You have learnt to meditate
For those who've navigated the rocky terrain of a broken home, meditation isn't just a trendy wellness trend; it's a lifeline. It's like having a secret stash of magic spells that can transform a hurricane of emotions into a gentle breeze.
Image source/ RedditWhen your past has been a roller coaster of emotions, meditation becomes your refuge, your safe space amidst the storm. It's not just about finding a quiet corner; it's about finding solace within yourself, a serene oasis in the midst of life's whirlwinds.24. You notice EVERYTHING
Living in a state of hyper-alertness is like having your defense mechanisms on speed dial. It's not about being overly cautious; it's about being on high alert, ready to shield against threats that may not even exist. You're like a security system that's been set to 'Guard Mode,' scanning the environment for potential dangers.
Image source/ RedditThis constant state of vigilance is more than just a habit; it's a survival strategy that you probably mastered in the school of hard knocks. When your past was filled with unexpected twists and turns, being hyper-alert becomes second nature, like a well-worn cloak you wear to navigate the world.25. You question if you are good enough
Coming from a background devoid of positive, loving, and stable influences is like trying to build a sturdy house with a shaky foundation. It's not that you aren't great; it's that your self-perception had to weather storms without the reinforcement of positivity.
Image source/ RedditSo, when the world starts showering you with compliments, it's like you're catching raindrops in a leaky bucket. The notion of being truly worthy becomes an elusive concept, a mirage you can't quite grasp. You may not even realize how great you are because your self-esteem was like a delicate flower struggling to bloom in an unsupportive garden.26. You spent a lot of time alone
Growing up in a broken home can turn your personal space into a sacred retreat. When you're alone, it's like holding the reins to your own peace, a break from the stress and pain that might've been a constant companion in the past. So, that craving for alone time isn't just a preference; it's a survival strategy, a way to reclaim control over your own sanctuary.
Image source/ PinterestBut, like everything, balance is key. Too much time in your fortress of solitude can have its drawbacks. It's like having your favorite dessert every day – it loses its charm. While alone time is a necessary breather, overindulging in it might unintentionally build walls that keep out not only stress but also the joys of connection and shared moments.27. You never felt safe
Feeling safe as a child is undeniably one of the cornerstone emotions, on par with being loved. This fundamental sense of safety plays a pivotal role in shaping a child's overall well-being and developmental journey. It's akin to having a sturdy foundation upon which a child can construct their understanding of the world and their place in it.
Image source/ MommyishThe impact of a secure childhood goes beyond mere emotional comfort; it extends to cognitive and social development. When a child feels safe, their mind is free to explore, learn, and develop essential skills. They can form healthy attachments, trust others, and build the confidence needed to navigate the challenges life throws their way.28. Or loved
Numerous studies have highlighted the profound link between mental and physical well-being, as well as overall growth, and the love a child receives during their formative years. Love acts as a nourishing force, fostering emotional resilience and providing a crucial foundation for healthy development.
Image source/ HOLAThe impact of childhood love, or its absence, echoes through various aspects of an individual's life. Emotional well-being, the ability to form secure attachments, and even physical health are intricately tied to the love a child experiences during their upbringing. For those who haven't received an adequate dose of love in their early years, the journey toward embracing and understanding love as adults might involve overcoming emotional barriers and rewiring deep-seated patterns.29. You always questioned where you would end up
The weight of questions like "Where will I end up?" or "What will I do if my family leaves me?" is a heavy burden for a child to bear. These thoughts shouldn't be the mental baggage of childhood. If you've grappled with these uncertainties, it could be a telltale sign of growing up in a broken home, one that lacked the essential emotional security and protection every child deserves.
Image source/ mumsnetGrowing up in a broken home can thrust a child into a premature confrontation with the harsh realities of an uncertain future. The absence of a reliable emotional anchor can leave a lasting imprint, shaping a child's worldview and influencing their perception of themselves and their place in the world.30. You witnessed a lot of arguments
Witnessing heated arguments as a child is like being caught in the crossfire of emotional artillery. The fallout extends beyond the immediate moment, leaving lasting imprints that can shape the lens through which one views relationships and family life. If this resonates with your experience, it could indeed be indicative of coming from a broken home.
Image source/ RedditGrowing up in an environment where heated arguments were a recurring theme can lead to a complex relationship with conflict and intimacy. The scars of those tumultuous scenes can manifest in a variety of ways, from an aversion to confrontation to challenges in forming and maintaining stable relationships.31. You have a strong urge/need for human attention
Growing up in a broken home often means navigating a landscape where the pillars of undying love and unwavering support may have been conspicuously absent. The deficiency in these fundamental elements can leave an indelible mark, shaping the emotional landscape and needs of an individual as they journey into adulthood.
Image source/ RedditThe void left by the absence of consistent love and support during formative years creates a hunger for validation and affirmation. Seeking large doses of human attention becomes a way to fill that emotional gap, an attempt to compensate for what might have been missing in the foundational years of emotional development.32. Even if it is bad...
Growing up feeling like a background character rather than the star of the show can mess with your mojo. So now, whether it's good vibes or drama, you just want to be in the spotlight. It's not about whether the attention is good or bad; it's about finally being seen.
Image source/ RedditIf this hits home for you, that itch for attention might not discriminate between positive or negative vibes. It's like your behavior is screaming, "Hey, look at me!" because being overlooked as a kid left a mark. Now, it's like you're making noise, not caring if it's applause or a facepalm.33. You seek out happiness in material possessions
Ever find yourself on a shopping spree, collecting material goodies like there's no tomorrow? Well, it might not just be about a love for the latest gadgets or fashion trends. Sometimes, that craving for possessions is like a silent shout, trying to fill an emptiness or patch up some invisible hole in your life.
Image source/ MetroIf this sounds like your vibe, you might not even realize it, but those shopping sprees and possession gatherings might be your way of trying to plug up a void, especially one from the past. It's like your behavior is waving a flag, signaling, "Hey, there's something missing, and I'm trying to fill the gap with stuff."34. You'll do anything to be noticed
When you've been brushed aside or made to feel like you're flying under the radar, the hunger for attention can be insatiable. You might catch yourself cranking up the volume in certain situations, just to get those eyeballs on you. It's not about being a drama king or queen; it's about craving that feeling of being noticed, loved, or simply desired.
Image source/ RedditIf this hits close to home, you might find yourself putting on a bit of a show, pulling out all the stops to snag some attention. It's not just about being the center of the universe; it's your way of shouting, "Hey, I'm here! See me!" Because being overlooked in the past makes you want to be seen and acknowledged in the now.35. You resent people who are happy
When you're buzzing with contentment, it's like you've got this surplus of joy to share. Happy people genuinely relish in the happiness of others; it's like a feel-good party where everyone's invited. But here's the kicker – when you're not feeling that inner glow, enjoying someone else's happiness can feel like a tricky dance.
Image source/ RedditSeeing someone else revel in joy might stir up a mix of emotions – from genuinely celebrating their happiness to secretly wishing you had a slice of that joy cake for yourself. It's not about being a happiness Grinch; it's just a reminder that your own quest for fulfillment is an ongoing journey.36. And relish other people's unhappiness
It's a bit of a truth bomb, isn't it? Sometimes, deep down, there's this weird comfort in hearing that someone else has faced misery or struggled. It's not that you're a happiness-hater; it's more about being able to relate and empathize when the vibe is on the gloomier side.
Image source/ RedditAdmitting this might feel like unveiling a secret, even to yourself. It's not that you're glad someone's having a rough time, but there's a strange connection in shared struggles. It's like a subtle nod that says, "Hey, I get it. Life's not always rainbows and butterflies."37. You form romantic relationships that aren't good for you and that you know can't work
The cycle of broken homes can be a tough one to break. Research and stats shine a light on a sobering reality: those who grew up in fractured family setups might unknowingly find themselves drawn to similar patterns in their adult relationships. It's like a subconscious replay of the familiar script they've witnessed.
Image source/ BuzzFeed NewsThe idea is that, on some deep level, what's familiar feels almost like a default setting. So, despite consciously wanting healthy, functional relationships, there's this subtle gravitational pull towards what's known – even if it's not good for you.38. You end up in controlling relationships
It's like stepping into the same dance with a different partner, unwittingly recreating the patterns they grew up with. When forming healthy connections wasn't the norm, it can be tricky to navigate what a good relationship looks like. The result? Landing in relationships that might be unhealthy, toxic, or even controlling.
Image source/ RedditBreaking this cycle requires a shift in perspective and a conscious effort to redefine what a healthy relationship means. It involves recognizing the signs of controlling behavior and toxic patterns and learning to navigate towards relationships that allow for mutual growth, respect, and freedom.39. Many of your relationships seem to be with people much older
Some experts indeed propose that individuals from broken homes might find themselves drawn to romantic partners with a significant age gap, possibly as a subconscious quest for the parental figures they might have missed in childhood.
Image source/ RedditWhile it's not a one-size-fits-all scenario, this pattern can emerge as an attempt to recreate a sense of structure or security that was lacking in earlier years. It's not about seeking out a specific age; it's more about finding qualities in a partner that echo the parental support and care they may have missed.40. You have been exploited
It can sneak up on you in various ways, and it's crucial to emphasize that the person being exploited is never to blame. Some experts suggest that individuals from broken homes might be more vulnerable to exploitation. Growing up in a dysfunctional family setting can mess with your ability to recognize manipulation.
Image source/ Tower of PowerWhen your role models weren't exactly paragons of stability, establishing clear boundaries becomes a bit like navigating uncharted territory. The emotional scars from a fractured family background can also mess with your self-esteem, making it harder to see the signs of exploitation.41. You have a real drive and ambition
Ambition and drive are like rocket fuel for personal growth, and here's the kicker – coming from a broken home can spark a unique kind of determination. It's like using your past as a springboard to aim for a different, better life.
Image source/ RedditGrowing up in a less-than-ideal situation can be a powerful motivator. It's as if the challenges you faced become the driving force behind your ambition. The passion to create a life that's a 180 from what you experienced can light a fire under you like nothing else.42. And have made a success of yourself!
Many individuals from broken homes harness their determination to provide their families with a life that's a complete departure from their own upbringing. It becomes a mission to rewrite the script, ensuring that the struggles of the past don't echo into the future.
Image source/ YouTubeThis drive to succeed can manifest in various capacities. Whether it's in your career, personal achievements, or building a stable and nurturing family environment, the goal is clear – to create a success story that breaks the chains of the past.43. You struggle to talk openly about emotions
Opening up about the pain and dysfunction that might have characterized your family relationships in a broken home can be an incredibly challenging process. It's like peeling back layers and exposing vulnerabilities, and the fear of more hurt can make it seem almost impossible.
Image source/ The MirrorWhile the initial act of opening up might feel like walking on a tightrope without a safety net, it's an investment in the long-term resilience of your relationships. It's about letting others in, allowing them to see the real you, scars and all. This kind of genuine communication lays the groundwork for deeper connections and creates a space where trust can take root and grow.44. You are scared to show your flaws
Nobody's perfect – we all come with our quirks and imperfections. It's part of what makes us human. But here's the kicker: sometimes, the fear of showing those flaws can be real, especially if you're carrying the baggage of a broken home. It's like worrying that if you reveal all of you, someone might hit the road.
Image source/ RedditSo, what happens? You might find yourself playing hide-and-seek with your true self. It's not about being fake; it's more about this instinct to safeguard parts of you, thinking that if someone sees the messiness, they might pack their bags.45. And scared to disagree with people
Fear of confrontation and disagreement can be a lingering shadow from a past filled with tumultuous family dynamics. When your history is peppered with frequent clashes, it's understandable to associate disagreement with toxicity rather than viewing it as a potentially healthy and constructive part of relationships.
Image source/ Make a Meme.orgBut here's the twist – healthy disagreement is part and parcel of robust relationships. It's not about chaos or toxicity; it's about two people navigating differences and finding common ground. Understanding that disagreement doesn't have to be a battlefield is a crucial step in reshaping your relationship with confrontation.46. You sometimes question people when they are nice to you
Navigating trust can be like walking a tightrope. The questions "What do they want?" and "Why are they helping me?" can become a constant hum in the background. Striking the right balance between being cautious and not closing yourself off entirely is the real challenge.
Image source/ GoodTherapyFinding that sweet spot involves a bit of discernment. It's about learning to read between the lines and being aware without being overly skeptical. Trust, like any relationship, is a two-way street. It involves taking calculated risks, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, and, at the same time, recognizing when it's time to set boundaries.47. You always feel you need to prove yourself more
The struggle to accept yourself and find satisfaction in your achievements is real, especially if you come from a background where success was a way to compensate for past shortcomings or a broken home. It's like there's this unspoken script that says you need to keep achieving to be enough.
Image source/ RedditBut here's the truth: you are enough, just as you are. Learning to accept yourself and finding contentment in your achievements, no matter how big or small, is a journey worth taking. It's about rewriting that script, shifting the focus from external validation to internal fulfillment.48. You crave stability
Creating an environment that feels stable and secure is not just great for you; it's a powerful tool for overcoming past difficulties. It's like laying down roots in solid ground, building a foundation that acts as a buffer against the uncertainties that might have characterized your upbringing.
Image source/ RedditThe journey to stability is a testament to resilience. It's about taking the chaos of the past and sculpting it into a sanctuary of steadiness. Whether it's in your relationships, your home, or your daily routine, fostering stability becomes a conscious effort to rewrite the script of your life.49. And do not want to more/relocate your family
The fear of recreating a sense of instability for yourself or putting your own children through a similar experience is completely understandable. It's like you've become a guardian of stability, determined to shield yourself and your loved ones from the turbulence you may have faced in the past.
Image source/ RedditSo, if the thought of relocating sends shivers down your spine, know that it's rooted in a deep-seated need for stability. It's a valid response to a past that lacked the routine and security you craved, and it highlights your commitment to providing a different, more stable narrative for yourself and your family.50. You have waves of loneliness
Even if you've managed to build connections and relationships that alleviate some of that loneliness, waves of this emotion might still hit you. It's like a residual echo from the past, a reminder of the times when you longed for the comfort and companionship that might have been scarce.
Image source/ The Wolf WebUnderstanding that this feeling of loneliness doesn't define your current reality is important. It's like acknowledging that, while the past may have been marked by solitude, the present is an opportunity to rewrite that narrative. Building meaningful connections and surrounding yourself with supportive relationships becomes a way of gradually easing the waves of loneliness that might still wash over you.